Today I pulled for the collective Aries sign who are in romantic conflict. I asked Spirit how Aries viewed the conflict and how their partner sees it.
The question asked of the Universe and Guides was: For the collective sign of Aries and those Aries who are in romantic conflict, how do they view the conflict and how does the person on their mind see the conflict?
Cards pulled:
How you view the conflict (Tarot): Seven of Wands, Judgement, Queen of Cups (reversed).
How do they view the conflict (Tarot): King of Swords (reversed), Five of Wands, Seven of Pentacles.
Conflict Oracle Card: “When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.”
My interpretation:
How you view the conflict: In this situation, you have felt a strong need to defend yourself and your relationship against external pressures. Perhaps you perceived competition or unfair attacks from those around you, targeting your relationship. Alternatively, you might feel that your partner has been attacking you and your character, leaving you feeling defensive. This sense of being judged is causing you to withdraw emotionally. You find yourself hiding your true emotions and thoughts from your partner, fearing that any expression of your feelings will be met with judgment and criticism. This dynamic has created an imbalance in your relationship. Without the ability to be open and honest, a major disconnect is inevitable.
How they view the conflict: Your partner perceives you as acting rashly and illogically, making decisions that seem nonsensical to them. They struggle to understand your perspective and motivations. From their viewpoint, it appears as if you are creating conflict for its own sake, which leaves them confused and frustrated. They feel bullied by your actions and are also on the defensive. Despite this, your partner has a genuine desire to work through these issues with you. They wish to connect and find a way for both of you to grow and evolve into a stronger partnership.
Conflict Oracle Card:
Front: “When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.”
Back: Offer your foe a golden bridge – A disagreement can turn nasty in the blink of an eye. Offer a “golden bridge” to your opponent to retreat over, even if it is sending them a message asking to talk, can start the healing process. Defeat is humiliating, retreating over this bridge helps them avoid that humiliation and can motivate them to reconnect to you.
Your guides are telling you not to burn any bridges. Provide a door or a bridge to your beloved to let them know there is a way to move forward. If you feel hurt, know that your partner does want to heal the situation so make the most of the situation and allow your partner the opportunity to make a move, knowing that he or she will be safe. When you are able to talk things through, remember to open up. Express how you feel in a calm and open manner. You need to be able to communicate openly and freely.
Decks Used:
Gold Foil Tarot by Kiino, The Art of War Oracle Cards by Sun Tzu.
