Today I pulled for the collective Gemini sign to ask about the shadow work they are meant to help with and learn from regarding the person on their mind in a romantic connection.
The question asked of the Universe and Guides was: With respect to the person on the mind of the Gemini in a romantic connection, together or separate, what shadow work was the Gemini there to help this person with – and what shadow work was this person there to help the Gemini with? Clarify with tarot and also provide a general message with the Shadows & Light Oracle.
Cards pulled:
The Person on Your Mind
Shadow Work Oracle Card: Ego
Tarot: Ten of Swords, Six of Wands (reversed), The Fool (reversed).
You
Shadow Work Oracle Card: Stagnation
Tarot: Death, Ten of Wands (reversed), Four of Wands.
General Message
Shadows & Light Oracle Card: Amara the Menehune: Aloha healing.
My interpretation:
Your Person
The Shadow Work Oracle card drawn for this person is “Ego,” which comes with the message, “Beyond the facade of ego lies the depth of true character.” The person on your mind may struggle with an over-inflated ego or, conversely, a fragile sense of self-worth. They might be highly defensive, taking even well-intended constructive criticism as a personal attack. This person’s ego is likely a protective shield, masking deeper insecurities and vulnerabilities.
How you have impacted this person is clarified by the tarot cards: Ten of Swords, Six of Wands in reverse, and The Fool in reverse. It appears, dear Gemini, that your role in this connection was to shatter their ego completely. The Ten of Swords signifies emotional devastation, betrayal, and an overwhelming sense of defeat. While this may seem extreme, it suggests that your presence has caused this person significant emotional pain, perhaps even leading to the complete collapse of their self-image.
The Six of Wands in reverse reinforces this idea, as it represents a fall from grace, a loss of confidence, and feelings of insecurity. In its upright position, this card is associated with victory and recognition—often linked to ego. But in reverse, it speaks of ego’s destruction, a humbling experience that forces the person to confront their vulnerabilities.
The Fool in reverse further indicates that this person has been left feeling directionless, uncertain about their future, and fearful of taking new risks. Your presence in their life has brought them to a point where they must face the reality of their situation, stripped of the illusions and defenses that their ego provided. Although this experience may seem harsh, it is likely a necessary step in their growth. By breaking them down, you have given them the opportunity to rebuild themselves, perhaps stronger and more authentic than before.
You
The Shadow Work Oracle card drawn for you is “Stagnation,” with the message, “Movement, even if slow, is progress.” While your role in this relationship may have been to dismantle the other person’s ego, their role was to help you overcome a period of stagnation in your own life. When you met this person, you may have felt stuck, as though your life was going nowhere. Perhaps you were caught in a rut, unable to see a way forward.
The tarot cards—Death, Ten of Wands in reverse, and Four of Wands—clarify how this person has influenced you. The Death card symbolizes transformation, endings, and new beginnings. It suggests that this person has been a catalyst for profound change in your life, helping you to leave behind an old way of being and embrace a new, more fulfilling path.
The Ten of Wands in reverse indicates that this person helped you release burdens and let go of the stress that had been weighing you down. They may have shown you how to relax and find peace, allowing you to lighten your load and breathe more easily.
The Four of Wands represents joy, celebration, and a sense of harmony, particularly within relationships. This person may have provided you with a period of happiness and contentment, offering you a sense of stability and connection that you had been missing. Even if the relationship has ended, as suggested by the pain described in the previous section, it was still a significant and positive influence in your life. However, the question lingers—did you betray them, dear Gemini?
Additional Message
The Shadows and Light Oracle card “Amara the Menehune: Aloha healing” presents an intriguing message. The Menehune are mythological beings from Hawaiian folklore, known as master craftsmen and builders of homes. This card could be hinting at the importance of home, craftsmanship, or the need for healing connected to these themes. Spirit might be suggesting that healing can occur for you, or between you and this person, through creating distance, engaging in creative work, or even by taking a vacation. Perhaps a change of scenery or a retreat into a peaceful environment could facilitate the healing process, helping both of you to find closure or a renewed sense of well-being.
Decks Used:
Nicoletta Ceccoli Tarot, Shadow Work Oracle, Oracle of Shadows & Light by Lucy Cavendish and Jasmine Becket-Griffith.
