Today I pulled for the collective Virgo sign to ask about the shadow work they are meant to help with and learn from regarding the person on their mind in a romantic connection.
The question asked of the Universe and Guides was: With respect to the person on the mind of the Virgo in a romantic connection, together or separate, what shadow work was the Virgo there to help this person with – and what shadow work was this person there to help the Virgo with? Clarify with tarot and also provide a general message with the Shadows & Light Oracle.
Cards pulled:
The Person on Your Mind
Shadow Work Oracle Card: Regret
Tarot: Five of Swords, Knight of Cups (reversed), Page of Wands (reversed).
You
Shadow Work Oracle Card: Dependency
Tarot: Ace of Swords, Seven of Pentacles, The Hermit.
General Message
Shadows & Light Oracle Card: Nautilus Princess: Powerful personal growth.
My interpretation:
Your Person
The Shadow Work Oracle card drawn for this person is “Regret,” which reads, “The past cannot be changed, but the future is still in your hands.” It seems that your presence in this person’s life has triggered feelings of regret, a powerful emotion that can drive personal growth and lead to better decisions in the future. This person may have made mistakes within your relationship, which have led to deep regret and a period of reflection on those missteps.
The tarot cards that clarify how you’ve influenced this person are the Five of Swords, the Knight of Cups reversed, and the Page of Wands reversed. The Five of Swords is a card of conflict and self-sabotage. It suggests that your person may have engaged in arguments or conflicts where their primary goal was to win, regardless of the emotional cost. They might have failed to consider your perspective, and their refusal to back down likely caused you pain. This behavior may have contributed to a breakdown in the emotional connection between you, as indicated by the Knight of Cups reversed. This card points to emotional instability, where the relationship may have suffered from unrealistic expectations or emotional turbulence.
The Page of Wands reversed suggests that this conflict and emotional instability led to a stagnation in your relationship, possibly even bringing it to a standstill. Your relationship may have lacked direction, and any forward momentum was likely stalled. As a result of these challenges, your person has begun to confront feelings of regret. This reflection on their past mistakes is a sign of potential growth, as they come to terms with the consequences of their actions and how they affected the relationship.
You
The Shadow Work Oracle card drawn for you is “Dependency,” which reads, “Find strength in self-sufficiency and empowerment.” The person on your mind has played a significant role in helping you recognize your own strength and independence. Through your experiences with them, you’ve come to understand that you are capable of taking care of yourself, and that you don’t need to rely on anyone else to achieve your goals. This realization has empowered you to embrace your own abilities and potential.
The tarot cards that clarify how this person has helped you are the Ace of Swords, the Seven of Pentacles, and The Hermit. These cards all share a common theme of seeking truth and clarity. The Ace of Swords represents mental clarity and the realization of truth. This person has, in some way, forced you to confront the truth about your own strengths and capabilities. The Seven of Pentacles is about evaluating your long-term goals and the effort required to achieve them. This person has helped you to see that you can build a future on your own, using your own skills and determination.
The Hermit card is about introspection and finding answers within yourself. This card suggests that you’ve embarked on a journey of self-discovery, one that requires you to look inward and rely on your own wisdom. It’s possible that this person has left you to navigate some of life’s challenges alone, perhaps even abandoning you during critical times. However, this has only served to reinforce your independence and self-reliance, guiding you to trust in your own judgment and inner strength.
Additional Message
The Shadows and Light Oracle card “Nautilus Princess: Powerful Personal Growth” highlights the significant transformation you’ve undergone. Learning to be independent and breaking free from the need to rely on others is one of the most empowering journeys you can undertake. While healthy partnerships are a wonderful goal, the ability to stand on your own is essential, especially when life challenges you with moments of solitude. Co-dependency is often seen as a negative trait, and breaking free from it can be incredibly difficult. Yet, dear Virgo, it seems you have evolved in profound ways, and even if this relationship was challenging or toxic, it has ultimately helped you grow and become stronger.
Decks Used:
Nicoletta Ceccoli Tarot, Shadow Work Oracle, Oracle of Shadows & Light by Lucy Cavendish and Jasmine Becket-Griffith.
